Wednesday, September 30, 2015

With Every Baby God Sends a Loaf of Bread


This grandma says, "Bravo! And if I may say something about waiting for children; my experience is that, in hindsight, one should be open to children always because there may never be a 'later.' One of you may become ill, or you may not have a long fertility window in your physical make-up, or a million other reasons. Getting pregnant is more difficult with each passing year. That is best done on God's schedule. And don't ever let money worries stop you from having children. There is an old saying 'with every baby God sends a loaf of bread.'"

This was a comment on Danielle’s post, "Are We Accepting Society's Norm?" which is a great post, by the way. I love this grandma’s comment! If we would not have waited, we probably would have another child since soon after I had Cassi, I became very ill and could not have any more children. Our children are, BY FAR, our greatest joy in life! Ryan, my oldest son, and his wife, Erin, just had their third baby. The baby was sleeping on my chest the other day; there is nothing more precious than the smell and feel of a newborn baby! It was touching watching Erin holding her baby and not being able to take her eyes off of her; it never gets old! Then baking cookies with my other two grandchildren was a joy beyond comparison as the two year old kept saying to me, "You're so funny!" I admit that this is NOT something said often about me! 

For all of you women who can’t have children, I know you mourn deeply. God is with you in your pain and we can trust Him in His providence over our lives. One of the many tragedies about abortion is that for all of the infertile couples, those aborted babies would have been happily adopted by these couples. Instead of being adopted into good homes, they are brutally murdered and women who desire a baby grieve.

For all of you who can have children, stop listening to what society and even your family say is best for you. Listen to what God says are blessings from Him! He created marriage for families. He wants godly couples to raise godly offspring. Every single baby is formed in the womb by Him.

Many worry about the expense. If you nurse your baby for a long time, use cloth diapers and don’t buy them all the latest gadgets, they are not expensive to raise. This is an area where we MUST trust God for He is our Creator and Sustainer. Even homeschooling can be inexpensive. Use the library to check out good books for your children to read and have them read a lot and do math. All other subjects will come easy to them if they are good readers and know math. Live simply and train them to be content with what they have. What they want most is a home with a mother and father who love them and each other.

On a news program, they showed a video of a little boy going off for his first day of kindergarten. Someone asked him if he’d miss his mom and he said, “No.” However, after thinking about it for a few seconds, he began bawling his eyes out. I don’t think children should be separated from their mother for hours every day. Yes, my children went to public school when they were young but as I have grown older, I don’t see the wisdom in this. On this same program, they were also discussing the stress children are under in the fall when they have to go back to school with the bullying and competition that takes place in every single school.

Now that schools have departed so far from our values and teach things contrary to them, it makes no sense to send our children to public school all day, all week long for many years. God gave these children to us to raise in the nurture and the admonition of Him, not strangers whom many know not Him.

When I asked the women in the chat room why they homeschool, Melissa from Far Above Rubies responded, "We do homeschool, and I have lately had in my heart another reason why. It goes back to how Jesus was tempted. Satan said {and I paraphrase}, 'Throw yourself down from here...He will save you.' Jesus replied, 'Thou shalt not test the Lord thy God.' I have heard the Lord saying to me that one reason He wants us to homeschool is because we may believe He can save us from a corrupt world, and He sure can but that we are not to test Him with the hearts and souls of our children. We know the commands of God about teaching and training our children are to PARENTS, not to anyone else. And it would be testing Him to 'throw them down' to wolves in any environment. That is our conviction, and a very deep word to me from the Lord that I have not shared with anyone before."

Here are some wise words to ponder. Instead of listening to what the world is telling you, listen to the Savior of your soul. If God sends you the blessings of children, trust Him to help you to provide for them and raise them up to become God-fearing adults.

But my God shall supply all your need according 
to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:19

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What a great post, on many levels! My daughter will turn 21 next month. She married her high school sweetheart in May and they immediately started trying to conceive. They wanted a honeymoon baby. It was a few months before it happened but found out a month ago that they are expecting. It is a very exciting time for our family. So many people discouraged them from having a baby so quickly. But it's all my daughter has ever wanted .. to be a wife and mom. She works part-time at a department store but will be quitting once the baby is born, most likely. She says she might work a few hours a week, but I honestly can't see her wanting to leave her baby. Her husband is an ironworker and makes a good wage and they bought a very inexpensive, small house in the small town where we live so have very low monthly expenses. I am proud of them for their decisions. In contrast, we have a friend whose daughter went to pharmacy school, is now a pharmacist and just got married and is trying to have a baby. She is 36 years old and is not having any luck. They have been trying for quite some time. Perhaps she waited too long trying to achieve the lie the world told her??
Wonderful post, Lori!

I thought this was such a great post, as well : http://amysfinerthings.com/someones-missing

Both posts showed up in my feed this morning. What a great reminder of what a blessing children are.
I can't say how much I LOVED this article!!!! Wonderful - thank you!!
I wish I knew if I'm suppose to marry/have children. I'm open to whatever God's outline for my life is, but I just wish I knew.
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I find the best way to discover God's will for my life is to step out in faith and "test the waters." I often think about the young lady who every night went to bed praying that God would bring her a husband if it was his will. An older woman heard her prayer one night and told her, "Get out there and do something about it! How are you supposed to know God's will if you don't make yourself available to see what he has in mind?!"

I don't know your circumstances or your availability, but if unsure as to the Lord's will, the ideal is to actively, not passively, keep moving forward to see who the Lord may bring in your life. Abraham is your perfect example of faith. He was told that he would find the promised land and yet he walked all over the middle east looking for it and seemed not to find it. Yet, when the New Jerusalem descends from heaven and covers every square inch of what Abraham had claimed for God by his faithfulness, we can ask him if God was faithful. And I am sure he will say, "Look around you and tell me that God not only keeps his word, but he uses our faithfulness as part and parcel of the fabric of our lives."

You probably know all this stuff already. My best wishes to you!
This is such a convicting post for many of us. I just dropped my daughter off our Christian preschool, which thankfully, she loves and it's been helping her so much socially while she's learning about the Bible too. If only I could get my husband on board with homeschooling for the coming years. And it looks like we aren't going to have anymore children either. But I will not let that discourage me from loving and serving God as best as I can. Thank you, Lori.
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Katie,

I encourage you to check out this article, it speaks to the issue of "socialization" and the lie that our society buys into about what kids really need. It might help you in presenting evidence to your husband of why you desire to home school and how beneficial it is. The ironic thing is I am a preschool teacher at a private Christian school, and my job has only served to convince me that I will never willingly put my own children (someday, none yet) in school unless my husband absolutely insists.
http://www.imfcanada.org/issues/nurturing-childre...
Praying nightly that God blesses us with another child, but also worried and praying about how we will afford it. Also praying we would find a way for me to be home with our little guy now. Thank you for this post as it gives me hope.
I can't help but think of Matthew 6v25-34. God knows what we need before we even ask. Do not worry about ' affording' another baby. God WILL take care of you, just trust Him! Great post Lori.
I still have the same questions and see every week evidence of the negative side of having children and how children suffer 'neglect'. In the comments section of your post For Those Of You Who are Struggling to Conceive I wondered... I don't question the financial side because here in Australia there is no childhood need that should go unfulfilled. It's the other examples I mentioned in that comment.

Sent with love...
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There will always be a negative side to everything in life so long as we live in a fallen world. Are you seeing a significant set of negatives when godly Christian parents have children? Remember, this blog is not necessarily intended for the world, but instead the Christian world. Although Christian families are not immune to having hardship with their children, most of the solidly Christian families we know have found their children to be a great joy, not a burden, and many of them , like us, wish we had had more of them, and not listened to the world's thinking on the matter. Instead, "Be fruitful and multiply" remains a command for Believers, and fruit of that command is so very worthwhile.
Thank you for such encouraging words! We have 4 children and I would love to have another one even though we have a very small income... Too bad we have no homeschooling in Germany. I would love to have my children at home. But they have to go to school here. We chose a private christian school which makes it harder to manage what we have for a month... but it is better than a public school and thus the best choice for the kids... Once more, thank you for this post! And for every one of them! I am always learning so much from them. :-)
Thank you Ken so much for your reply. It's very wise and encouraging. Yes I'm sorry to report it IS in Christian circles. Many families from Churches, Christian playgroups, Christian Ladies Coffee Mornings, Christian Music Times for Preschoolers, Christian Homeschoolers... It's not necessarily that the children are treated as a burden - they're just ignored, not kept clean or their home/environment, allowed to fend for themselves, teeth cavities, unhealthy food and drinks sloppily given, especially as new babies are added to the family. Neglected... The children and their care seem not to be treated as a high priority. Although the parents may see nothing wrong with their own lack of diligence.
Fabulous post!
I have just discovered this blog and am slowly exploring it, finding plenty to inspire and encourage me. However, one point I would like to make about abortion/adoption: I could think of no circumstances where I would ever choose to have an abortion. However, two men who are very close to me, both in their early 40s, were adopted at birth. Both were adopted by loving, good parents and raised well. Both have gone on to have successful careers with families of their own. But deep down, throughout their whole lives, both of these men have struggled with insecurity, have deep-rooted trust issues, and have self-esteem issues, caused by being rejected by their mothers at birth. Both of them have incredible adoptive mothers and fathers who love them dearly, but that initial maternal rejection has scarred them terribly, and neither of them have been able to get over it. One of these men now has regular contact with his birth family, the other initiated contact with his birth mother and was harshly rejected again, which increased the issues he was already struggling with.
Obviously adoption means life and abortion ends that life so adoption has to be the better choice, but please don't be deceived: adoption is not the perfect solution

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