Tuesday, July 26, 2016

Finding Intimacy and Fulfillment Apart from God's Word


Many are looking for an emotional experience with the Lord. They keep searching for that magic something that will help them feel closer to the Lord whether it's some new type of praying or a book whose author received a revelation from the Lord. Maybe it's even simply learning to be thankful or having a better sex life. Everyone is looking for a better and more fulfilling life.

A while ago, I shared with the chat room that often times when I am having quiet time with the Lord and reading His Word, I shed tears. Many times, it is an emotional experience for me just sitting in His presence and learning from Him. For instance, I read these words recently one morning and became emotional over them.

But let all those that put their trust in thee rejoice: let them ever shout for joy, because thou defendest them: let them also that love thy name be joyful in thee. For thou, LORD, wilt bless the righteous; with favor wilt thou compass him as with a shield {Psalm 5:12}.

Understanding how much the Lord loves me, how much He has done for me, and that He even defends me is enough to bring me to tears. I don't need to learn a new and improved way to pray or read someone's new and improved message from God. All we need for life and godliness are in His Word. We are complete in Him. As you spend time in His Word getting to know Him, you will become more emotional knowing that the Creator of the universe has a relationship with you and loves you!

Learning to be joyful and thankful is great but if you aren't walking in obedience to the Lord by submitting and obeying your husband, raising your children to know Jesus, being modest and discreet and being a keeper at home, you will not find joy and peace. There is no joy and peace outside of God's will for us. Will we ever obey Him perfectly? No, but we should be studying His Word to know what He requires of us; For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous {1 John 5:3}. His instructions to us are clearly spelled out in the New Covenant. There is no guessing game.

You can also learn all the ways to have the best sex of your life but if you aren't learning to please, honor, respect, submit to and obey your husband, big deal! Sex is not the be all and end all; loving and obeying the Lord is all that matters. The amazing thing is that the closer you walk to the Lord and His ways, the better your sex life will likely be and the more joyful, thankful and peaceful you will become. Nothing lasting can be found apart from God's ways. 

Therefore, seek the Lord while He may be found. Spend time reading His Word and praying to Him. He is the Savior of your soul, your Creator, your Savior and your Rock. Walk in His ways and learn what pleases Him and in the process, you will find blessings abundant!

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Hi Lori, I started reading your blog not to long ago. I am a born again Christian,and I have been happily married for over 10 yrs, but I have a question. My husband and I have a wonderful relationship, but I have no desire to have sex. Are you saying in your post that this would be a spiritual issue? I would love to desire my husband, but I don't know what to do about it. Any advice?
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My point in the post wasn't to give sex advice but for those who are trying to find fulfillment and happiness in their marriage by scouring the blogs and books about sex and believing this is the answer to their marriage woes is looking in the wrong place. First they need to begin obeying the Lord and what He has called them to do in marriage: love, reverence, obey, submit to, and please their husband. This is way more important to the Lord than having a fabulous sex life. The ironic thing is, however, when you live your life in obedience to the LORD and love your husband as the Lord has called you to love him, your sex life will usually improve dramatically!
I would encourage you to look at wether it may be a hormone imbalance or not. It could be unresolved emotional trauma or yes, in some circumstances it can be spiritual. And it can just be a matter of mindset. Pray about it. Talk to your husband about it. You wouldnt be the only couple going thru this. Hope this advice helps. :-)
Good advice, Anon M! Thank you. For some reason when I saw her comment this morning, I wasn't thinking "sex advice!"
Certainly it may be a spiritual, psychological or physical issue. I would explore all three beginning with visiting a medical doctor who specializes in this area. To explore the psychological and spiritual you might do much of your own research online, followed again by a visit to a training Christian professional. Ten years into marriage is a time to try to solve this as you have another 30+ years of potential love making and its too much bonding and fun to not have some desire for it or enjoy it. Then with your husband, certainly honor him with your love for him even if sex is not desired, try new things study up to ensure he knows the means by which most women enjoy sex. If you are a fun person, go into sex thinking you will make it fun. If you are not a fun person, become one in this important area of your relationship. If something about these concepts scares you, explore the reasons why with him and a counselor.
Ken, that is the most beautiful advice!
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